The beauty about being married is that the rest of forever is going to be spent with the person I love! Firstly, let me just inject that this will not be one of those cheesy and cliché posts about how ‘perfect’ Paul is. Quite frankly, he isn’t! He’s totally imperfect…. which is exactly why I complement him the way I do 😌. I mean the equilibrium had to be balanced, right?? OK, ok! For those of you who will make me out to be anything less than perfect, let me appease you… I’m imperfect, I have my flaws, blah, blah, blah!! (I’m dying with laughter as I write this 😂). Jokes aside, obviously, neither of us are remotely near to perfection, yet, I’d say that I’ve found something in Paul and in our marriage that is beyond beautiful. It’s so priceless I never quite dreamt of feeling this way about another human!
I’ve been privileged to watch the evolution of my husband- both personally and professionally. Like seriously! Everything about him is ridiculously remarkable. (Am I sounding cliché yet? That’s really not the plan here guys 😂😁). The funny thing about our relationship is that it took an UNFORSEEN twist that marvels me even up to this day! I. DID. NOT. LIKE. A. BONE. IN. HIM!! Believe you me, I didnt!! As Jamaicans, we often say “Wi spirit nuh tek…” and truthfully, my spirit just neva tek him! Man, I just thought he was too extra, too involved, too ups and “nuff” and I was completely adamant that since he was the center of attention for everybody, he was most definitely NOT going to be that way with me. So, I ignored him! Utterly and completely! I mean, how long I ignored him is totally irrelevant, especially in light of the fact that that same “ups” man is now laying beside me and also that I just happen to share his last name! Yup, totally irrelevant! 😂 It took him some time to get me to see that beyond the “nuffness” was a man who, before we even realized we liked each other, had my best interest at heart- whether I liked it or not- and would literally insist on helping me figure things out and finding ways for me to do and be better. And that, ladies and gentlemen, was when I fell in love with Paul!🙈 (I definitely agree that that sounds cliché but it’s the absolute truth).
Thanks to him, I’ve made and smashed some goals that I previously didn’t even consider. So on days when he’s frustrating and extra and often when he decides to work my nerves, there are times when I look at him, smile and say “I love you, baby.” (He says this part isn’t true but sometimes I do it in my head so it still counts… right?) Mind you, there are times I want to be a terror and wreak havoc because “I have a valid point” (or because I’m petty; sometimes I can’t even tell the difference between the two 😂😂😂😂) but many times I do! (Disclaimer: I don’t always get it right but I try!) There’s something my Aunt said to us after we got married. She said:
“Choose your battles well. Not every situation deserves a response. When you feel riled up, and you need time to process the situation so you don’t say something you’ll regret, smile and say “OK baby” and keep it moving!” Wise words indeed! 🙈
All in all, I married a KING! A King who I respect, value, admire, challenge and love!! I respect that there’s never a situation where he puts himself before me! I mean, let’s be honest! Which woman doesn’t want to feel and know that she’s the best thing that ever happened to her man? I know I do! 😆
Another major thing I admire about Paul is his drive to be successful in his career! Just a few weeks ago he got some amazing news that’s a big deal for both of us! His ambition and dedication to his craft is jaw dropping and worthy of emulation. His students relate to him in such a way that it’s heartwarming. They look up to him and see him as their role model (hence his award at this year’s Year 11 Prom for “Best Role Model Male 2017” and his “Star of Fame” award that he says I should hold up in the bed so that I don’t forget that he’s a star *rolls eyes* ). Yup! Never a dull moment!
By now I’m sure you can tell that I married an EXTRAordinary man. For those of you who know him, you know his sarcasm is on another level and you also know that if you take him too seriously the joke will only be on you!😂
So as we embark on a new week, one that will celebrate the day of his birth, I’ve decided to dedicate this post to him. Thank you, my “Star”. Thank you for challenging me, accepting me, providing for me and loving me selflessly!! Your presence is definitely priceless!! I love you!!